Guidelines for Choosing a Family

Guidelines for Choosing a Family

You probably already have a mental picture of an ideal home and family for your child. The process of adoption creates an opportunity to make that picture a reality by providing you with the opportunity to select the family you want. By answering the following questions you will gain a better understanding of what kind of home and family might be best for your child.

Questions to Ask:

  • How long have you been married?
  • What makes your marriage work?
  • How many other children do you have, or plan to have?
  • What is the source of your motivation for adopting?
  • Do you have any pets, and if so, how many and what kind?
  • Where do you live and what are the living conditions and the general environment (standard of living, urban, country, weather, crime, etc.)? What is your community like?
  • Do you have plans to move?
  • What is your denomination and current view and practice of religion?
  • How much contact do you expect to have with me?
  • What is your educational background?
  • What is your current occupation–the way you earn a living?
  • Will both of you work after you adopt?
  • What will make you good parents?
  • What about your extended family? How much contact do you expect to have with them?
  • With whom will your child be spending the most time?
  • What connections through family and friends do you have with adoption?
  • What are your hobbies, interests, and goals for the future?
  • What type of education would you make available for your child?
  • Do you have a college savings plan for your children?
  • How do you handle and resolve conflict?
  • What is your personal philosophy towards discipline?
  • What kind of future do you envision for your adopted child?