Common Questions People Ask About Adoptions
How involved can I be with my baby, and will my child get a chance to contact me years from now?
At the time of adoption, the birthparents can choose whether or not they would be willing to being contacted in the future by the child placed for adoption. The level of contact between birthparents, the adoptive family, and the adopted child is a decision between birthparents and the respective adoptive parents.
How do I know my baby will be safe with someone else?
Adoption agencies set standards for adoptive parents that gives assurance that a child placed in an adoptive home will be safe. You also have the option of selecting a family by researching their profiles, having phone conversations with them, and meeting them face to face.
What are my baby’s father’s rights in adoption?
The birthfather’s rights in adoption are the same as the birthmother’s unless determined otherwise by a court.
Will my baby be confused if I choose open or semi-open adoption?
Confusion largely depends on the extent of communication between the child and the adoptive family. Closed adoption seems to generate more confusion or frustration for adopted children because of the larger number of unknowns.
How much can I find out about an adoptive family for my baby?
Potential adoptive families provide profiles that often include photographs. Some couples even present their profile in the form of a scrapbook. The available information may include the size of their family, where they live, what they do for a living, how long they have been married, how they met, names of their pets, and their health history.
They often include their religious views. Most will include some photographs of themselves and their surroundings.
What will the adoptive parents of my baby have to know about me?
The adoptive parents will want to know all they can about you. They will probably be interested in your medical history, your healthcare, your age, and your interests. You are free to provide any additional information that you would like to share.
Will I be able to see my baby when it’s born?
You are free to see your baby when he or she is born and for as much time as you would like. Depending on the state where your child is born, papers do not normally become effective and are sometimes not even signed until 24 to 48 hours after your child’s birth.
It is usually helpful to to talk to an adoption professional where you can explore adoption in greater detail. You can ask questions and learn more about the process without pressure.
Last Updated: 1/2014